Grace, as demonstrated in salvation and sanctification, is a beautiful paradox.
And this is the paradox: on the one hand we’re involved, and on the other hand, God does it all.
The gospel does not say that God will love us if we are good. The gospel tells us that God will make us good because he loves us.
Grace offers freedom. Grace is not in the easing circumstances, relief from difficulty, and distance from pain in order to be free. As Tullian Tchividijan says “Rather, grace is freedom from bitterness, anger, fear, resentment, self-pity, offense, and suffering; it is freedom from my burdensome sense of “I deserve better,” the encumbrance of entitlement… only the gospel can free us from the enslaving pressure to defend ourselves.”